Archive | October 2010

50 Things About My Marriage

This was something another friend blogged about and I thought it was a neat idea so I am sharing mine too!

1. When is your “engagement” anniversary:
January 4, 2006

2. When is your “marriage” anniversary:
February 4, 2006

3. How long have you known your spouse:
over 5 years

4. How long did you date/court before you were engaged:
6 months

5. Where did you meet your spouse for the first time?
AMC at Desert Ridge

6. What is your spouse’s full name:

7. Do you have any children:

8. How many – boys/girls:
1 girl- 6 months – Sofia
1 boy- 4 years – Vicente

9. Do you have any house pets:
Yes- 2 dogs (boxers)

10. Do you own a house or rent:

11. Do you live in the country or town/city:

12. What is one of your favorite activities together:
Watching a movie

13. Do you have a favorite vacation spot:

14. When did you first kiss?
oh geeze, I don’t remember. But I did keep my daytimer from that year and it says we kissed for the first time on Sunday, August 14th, 2005.

15. What church do you attend?
None at the moment

16. Is this the church you were married in:
No, we got married at the church we used to attend, SonRise. It also happens to be the church where we were both baptized.  🙂

17. What town is your current address at:

18. Do you work or stay at home:
I work very part time so I can stay home as much as possible.

19. Where did you go on your honeymoon:
No honeymoon

20.What was the funniest gift you gave when dating?
well, I gave him socks for Christmas with his initials written on them.  (He was always losing his socks to his brother or his dad. Lol)

21.How long have you been together?

5 years

22. How long did you know each other before you started dating?
about 1 month

23. Who asked who out?
We didn’t have an official asking out – we kind of just went to lunch together and started hanging out all the time and so I decided our first lunch date was the day we started dating.  On September 4th he asked me to be his girlfriend though.

24. How old are each of you?

He is 26 and I am 25 almost 26

25. Where do each of you go to school?
We don’t go to school

26. Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
Well we went through a bad time about 2 years back but we got through it and came out stronger.

27. Did you go to the same school?


28. Are you from the same home town?
No. Not at all. Haha.

29. Who is smarter?
He knows more things but we both have a good amount of common sense and reasoning skills.  I am very logical and analytical

30. Who is more sensitive?
Well, he is an understanding soul and that makes him sensitive.  But being emotionally sensitive, that would be me.

31.Where do you eat out most as a couple?
We don’t really eat out.  Sometimes we pick up food and bring it home.  The only place I can think of that we frequent most often would be Sweet Tomatoes because my family likes it and so does his family so we meet there with one of our families every so often.

32. Where is the farthest you two have traveled together as a couple?


33.Who has the craziest exes?
He doesn’t actually have “exes” but this girl that liked him at one point is now very rude to me and I consider her a crazy ex.

34. Who has the worse temper?

35. Who does the cooking?
We split it.  I think he ends up cooking more, especially because I work some nights.

36. Who is more social?

I am for sure

37. Who is the neat-freak?

I am.  I am not the cleaner person but I am very particular about everything having a “spot” and being organized and put exactly a certain way.

38. Who is more stubborn?
Me.  We are both VERY stubborn but, as I said before, he can reflect and see things from my point of view and revisit the subject.

39. Who hogs the bed?
HIM!!!   And he rolls on me and sleeps with his back on my back and it drives me nuts!  LOL

40. Who wakes up earlier?
Usually me because I wake up with every little noise Sofia makes.

41. Where was your first date?

Macayos.  That is where we first had lunch together.

42.Who had more boyfriends/girlfriends?
I did

43. Do you get flowers often?
Yes.  I usually get flowers once a week!

44. How do you spend the holidays?
We spend some time with my family and some time with his family.

45. Who is more jealous?
Me, but neither of us are very jealous people.

46. How long did it take to get serious?
It was instantly serious

47. Who eats more?
He does.

48. Who does the laundry
I do.

49. Who’s better with the computer?
He is way better with the computer when it comes to software and programs all the way down to the schematics of the computer and hardware.  He can build a computer and build websites, etc.

50. Leave a piece of advice for the other couples.
Take your vows seriously.  Marriage isn’t just living together.  When you take your vows you are promising to be committed, not just when things are perfect, but for when things aren’t perfect as well.  You owe it to each other (and to God and your children) to be honest.  If something isn’t right, speak up and be willing to work it out.

Will you do this too, so I can learn a little about you?  I think these things are so fun!


Holiday Cards – what are you sending out this year?

It’s that time of year again.  Yes, it’s here already!  Fall is here and now is the time that I start planning out what I am going to do for this years’ holiday greeting cards.  Do I send out a simple card with a personalize message? A photo card?  Do I get professional pictures taken and opt for their greeting cards or do I select a photo of my own and try to make my own holiday greeting cards?

Lately, I have been sending out the photo greeting cards.  I just love them!  I usually will try to plan for the four of us to dress nicely and have someone use my camera and take pictures of us as a family.  The only time I seem to be able to get all of our schedules coordinated and all looking decent is at a family get together.  So getting someone to take a few pictures of us isn’t so hard.

Shutterfly has the biggest selection of photo holiday cards I have ever seen!  There is definitely something for everyone.  They have all sorts of sizes and unique options.  They also offer you the ability to get as little or as many as you need whereas some places only offer the cards in certain quantities and if you need 30 your only option is buying 40 and you have a bunch of leftover cards.  For those of us that have a BIG extended family and require more cards, the more you buy the cheaper it is per card!  🙂

You can browse their holiday card options here.  I took the liberty of browsing myself and finding some of my favorites!

  1. I love their 5×5 options!  When I start getting Christmas cards in the mail, I know what it is as soon as I see the envelope because they are always the same size.  The 5×5 option is so unique and so classy in my opinion.  The 5×5 I like the most is the Joyful Red Frame card.  You can personalize it with your own picture and message and paired with the classy white and red border it is sure to be a classy holiday treat for loved ones near and far.
  2. For the families that send out newsletter updates from the past year, Shutterfly even has something that will accommodate that!  The What A Year card is a 5×7 stationary card that has room for 3 pictures AND room for enough text to send out an update on your family to go with the pictures.  I receive newsletter updates from a few family members and they’ll send photos along with the newsletter in an envelope.  Well, the more you stuff in an envelope the higher the postage.  I think this is such a great greeting card option.
  3. Another option Shutterfly offers is a folded photo greeting card!  I got really excited about this one because traditionally in the past a photo greeting card was a 5×7 or 4×8 flat card that you could write a short message such as “Happy Holidays” and close it with your family surname.  Now Shutterfly offers you the ability to send out a photo greeting card and have it feel like a traditional holiday card that you can customize with your own message inside.  My favorite option is the Paper Snowflakes Christmas card.  Your picture of choice fills up the entire cover of the card instead of having borders, which I think gives the card a very simple and pretty look.
  4. Who doesn’t receive greeting cards from their dentist, family doctor, chiropractor, etc?  I know I get cards every year, and believe it or not Shutterfly also offers business holiday greeting cards as well.  They really thought of EVERYTHING!
  5. Now, while I was browsing their holiday options I came across New Year’s cards and invitations that you can find by clicking here which I think is a fun option.  I also found Christmas Thank You cards that you can search by clicking here.  We send out Thank You cards after birthdays, showers and other parties… so why not after the Holidays too?

I am really excited about all the options Shutterfly has to offer and I can’t wait to order my holiday greeting cards this year.  I can’t believe I am so prepared this year and already have my cards picked out!  One less thing I have to worry about in this busy season.

Shutterfly is currently running a promotion and offering 20% off all holiday cards!  And if you hurry, they are offering free shipping on orders over $30 with the code SHIP30.

Go and check them out!  I bet you’ll find something you LOVE!  I know I already did!

Happy Holidays! 🙂

Mourning a tragedy

On Monday my mom called me.  I have a 4-year-old boy, Vicente, and a 6 month old girl, Sofia.  She called me to ask me to watch over Sofia while she sleeps.  You see, one of my mom’s friends, Grace, (also someone she manages at work in the California office) called to let her know she would be out of work because something terrible had happened.

Grace received a phone call a few hours earlier from the at-home day care provider that watched her 8 month old, Bella, letting her know Bella was being taken to the hospital via ambulance.  Bella passed away that day.  The first explanation given to her was a possible case of SIDS.

When my mom found out she immediately thought of me.  She cried on the phone while telling me what had happened to Grace and Bella.  The overwhelming feeling of fear and helplessness came upon me.  Sofia sleeps in her own room now but we have a great monitor and you can hear her breathe.  But what about through the night?  Was I worrying over something I have no power over?  I thought we were out of the woods for SIDS at 4 months.  How long will I have to worry about this?

I called my mom today to get an update.  She flew out to California to help support her friend in this time of need as well as help offset the workload left by one of her employees in a time of need.  She has to be two people while she is there, she has to play so many roles too.  Friend, manager, shoulder, ear, support, strong front, helping hand, mentor, and probably so many more.

The doctors no longer believe Bella died from SIDS.  They believe it was a wrongful death on the part of the day care provider and are investigating it.  Bella’s body will not be released for a funeral until the investigation (including autopsy) is complete.  For now they will be doing a memorial service in honor of Bella tomorrow evening.

Grace isn’t doing so well, as is to be expected.  She feels as if life isn’t worth living without Bella in it, and she doesn’t want to continue trying.  I know of people who have lost their children and how everyday is a struggle.  Remembering what happened.  Having to remind yourself daily that your child isn’t there anymore.  Continually fighting each day to get out of bed or even just open your eyes… plus planning the funeral and services FOR YOUR CHILD!  This is something I can’t even imagine going through.  I lost my breath just talking to my mom this morning about it all.

My heart is breaking for Grace and every time I think about what happened and what she is going through I get a pain deep in my chest and I lose my breath again.  There are so many things I don’t understand, and burying a child is one of them.

If you are reading this and feel moved to help in any way, will you just keep Grace in your thoughts or prayers?  I pray that she finds the strength to wake up each day as she mourns the loss of her beloved daughter.

Also, if you have a resource that I can pass along, I would really appreciate that as well.

I will update with any news on the investigation.


3 Preschools down, is this the one?

My son recently turned 4 and he is in preschool now.  What a big boy!  He has actually been to two other preschools.  We started him in this great preschool that he loved and we loved.  A nice private school.  But man, oh man, preschool can be EXPENSIVE!  We were struggling to make ends meet but this was an important thing for him so we did what we could and cut back what we could so we could provide this opportunity for him.

We saw how great school was for him; how much he learned, how much he grew!  His vocabulary expanded and his social skills developed so much.  Preschool has so much more resources than I did as a SAHM.  I knew this was good for him.

We ended up transferring him to a different preschool, a Lutheran preschool.  Not that I am Lutheran, but we thought that as a Christian preschool he would be taught about God.  We were struggling with how to explain God and Jesus and how to introduce him to the idea of prayer.  We thought this school would help.  Better yet, my Mother-in-Law was a preschool teacher at this school so we got a discount on tuition!  This was the best news, or so we thought. A discount on education at a Christ centered preschool!

Well, this ended up being the worst transition we could have made.  My son went from being this well-behaved boy to someone who had behavior struggles all the time.  We couldn’t figure out where this was coming from.  We thought some of it was his age and a developmental norm.  And a small piece of it was.  A bigger piece of it wasn’t.  The school was AWFUL!  They taught about God a little bit – which was great, but God was mainly just a word in a song and not someone my son actually learned about.  What I got to show for it was artwork my son would bring home, but it was so obviously not created by him and instead created by the teachers.  I was seeing this change in my son and I knew something was wrong.  The school wasn’t doing anything bad to my son, I don’t want it to sound that way, but they weren’t encouraging good behavior in the students of the class and they weren’t discouraging the bad behavior.  They weren’t helping our kids learn right from wrong.  There is A LOT I can do as a parent to shape my son into a strong and good human being but so much of that can be counteracted by a school or daycare if they aren’t doing their jobs as caregivers or education providers.  Let’s just shorten it up and say my son hated going to school and would cry.  At the end of the year both my son and Mother-in-Law left the school.  My MIL had taught there for about 5 years but things went so downhill that last year and after witnessing the effect they had on her grandson, that was no longer a place she wanted to teach.  Although I hated the idea of having him change schools again, my heart knew he couldn’t go to that school anymore.

My Mother-in-Law found a new school to teach at and we followed her there.  My son attends 2 days a week and we are already seeing the positive effects this school is having on him!  He loves learning again.  He gets excited to go to school and learn.  I get excited to see him happy about school and friends again!  The school has a Reggio Emilia philosophy and at first I was skeptical about it, but I see how great it is when my son comes home and tells us about what he has learned for the day.  The last school was so horrible and towards the end of the year everything with the teachers or the director became a struggle.  This year school became good for him again.  This year he wants to learn because he now has a positive learning environment to go to.

At this age, schooling is so important.  Before I was a parent I thought preschool was just another term for daycare and just a place working families put their children so they could earn a living.  Having a MIL who majored in Early Childhood Development helped me learn that is not at all the case.  Preschool and Daycare are so different.  And because her hours are so flexible, if we aren’t able to pick our son up after school for any reason, her hours happen to be the same hours as my son’s so she just takes him home with her.  Preschool can offer so much more by the way of education and social development than I can.  I don’t have the skills to provide what they can.  I work part-time so we are able to provide this opportunity for him, as we will our daughter.  I am so happy we found this preschool.  It takes us 30 minutes to get there, but luckily it is on our way to work so we can make it happen.

Here is a picture of a piece of art my son brought home from school 2 weeks ago.

It is a ducky! 🙂  And this is clearly artwork made by him and NOT the teachers!  Before he would just scribble and say he drew a dragon or something.  Now he can create what he wants to draw!  The school has an atelier and he goes to it both days he is in school and the art teacher teaches the students how to draw different shapes, and overtime they learned how to put those shapes together to create something… and this is what he brought home.  I am going to frame this, but for now it is on my fridge.  I love it.  I cried when I saw it.  It’s the most precious drawing of a ducky I have ever seen.

We are so blessed to have found this school.  We are so blessed to have a MIL that wants to be so active in our kid’s lives, in our lives.

Starting this adventure called… Blogging!

Blogging.  I’ve been intrigued by this concept for quite a while now.  I started to blog, but just for family, to test the waters.  And I like it.  I like sharing, and talking.

What better way to talk and share with people than to blog?

I can write about anything I want!

This isn’t like in school where I was assigned a project and had to write about a specific subject.

This is something I can get excited about and have fun with.  And I am!

So here starts the adventure!

I hope you all will join in this adventure with me  🙂