Archive | January 2012

Wedding Dress Inspired

My husband and I have been talking (since before we got married) to do a vow renewal/wedding ceremony at about 10 years.  We didn’t have a big ceremony when we got married because we “eloped” (I used quotes because I am using that term loosely).  I wouldn’t change that for the World, because it was SO stress free.  But I have been looking at dresses, flowers, wedding design, etc the past few weeks and have gathered quite a collection of dresses I am in LOVE with.  I think I have a style picked out for the ceremony as well.  Things are really coming together for this ceremony, even though we are years away.  Now we just need to put together the money. haha.

Look at these amazing vintage finds:

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And here are some new dresses I LOVE:

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Isn’t the bodice detail on this lovely:

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This dress is so simple and sweet.  Plus I love the low back.

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Another great detailed bodice, plus this fit is “in” right now:

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I’m not so sure my figure can pull off the strapless look but I do love the style.

Happy to share!  🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Spanish, please!

One of my resolutions for the new year was to learn to speak Spanish conversationally. Well, I’m sure you can imagine my excitement when I saw that LivingSocial.com was offering 6 months of online language immersion lessons for $25 and a year was $39. That is a fraction of the cost of any language software program I have found! SCORE!!!! I went ahead and purchased a year because I really couldn’t beat the value. I am in somewhat of a rush because we are travelling to Spain in July to visit my husband’s family, so I am going to get started right away. But, if you aren’t in as much of a hurry, but are interested in the value, you don’t have to activate your lessons until July.

I have a limited understanding of Spanish and Portuguese. I know certain words and phrases. I have difficulty putting those words or phrases into sentences or understanding when others speak to me in that language. I took classes all through middle school and high school but I can hardly remember a thing.

I am so excited to get started with my lessons, and who knows, maybe I’ll take a crack at Portuguese, too! (Felipe’s mom’s family is from Brazil.) I have a year, so why not? haha!

If you’re interested in learning another language or refreshing one you already know, here is the link: http://share.livingsocial.com/deals/229334?rpi=43645934&ref=personalized-link-box-43645934&rui=33472081

There is no such thing as 50/50

I have been married for almost 6 years.  It’s a relatively short time, but in this time I have gained some perspective and have a trade secret that not many people know.   Are you ready for it?  Do you want me to share it with you all?

Well here it is, in marriage, there is no such thing as 50/50!  Now that I know better, it really bothers me to hear people say that marriage is 50/50.  This is what I grew up hearing and learning so this is what was imprinted into my brain.  But this is NOT accurate.  You have to give it your ALL!  When you are married under God, he does not unite just half of you; He unites you completely to your spouse, for life!  Marriage is 100/100.  Now, that is much easier said than done.  In our marriage, there are times when we are overwhelmed, underwhelmed, dealing with the needs of the children, irritated with each other, we need our space, we’re sick, etc.  The list goes on…  But what we realized is, that we have to give it our all or our marriage will fail, and it almost did once.  God’s plan for marriages and family is to put the spouse first – always.  The children next, and everything else goes after that.  If we keep the needs of our spouse and our marriage in the very front of our hearts and minds, instead of the needs of our “selves” then we “fight” better and more productively, we communicate better, and we love unconditionally.

When we went through our rough patch, when our marriage almost failed, I had a very selfish viewpoint of our marriage.  We fought horribly and I would put the blame on him.  I expected so much of my husband and when he didn’t live up to the expectations I had, I blamed him for not doing well enough.  How does the saying go?  When you point the finger at someone else, there are four more pointing right back at you.  I am not saying that our marriage almost failed entirely because of me, but I was definitely not helping it succeed.  We went to counseling through a church, and during the sessions my heart was convicted.  I learned so much.  Ultimately, when we would fight, for me it would boil down to me versus him.  I didn’t have the marriage in mind.  I learned that it’s not just about me or him, it’s about both of us all the time.  As humans, we are very selfish by nature.  I am human, and I was VERY selfish.  On top of that, after we had our son, I put our son’s needs ahead of my husband’s and that put a wedge between us.  During these counseling sessions I learned that in order for my husband to be the leader of the family, I had to tend to his needs first so that he could tend to OUR needs.  And the same goes the other way.  In order for me to be able to meet the needs of my kids and the family, he needs to tend to my needs first.  It is what gives us the strength, courage, energy to get through each day and take on new obstacles.  If we neglect each other’s needs, our parenting is affected, our relationship is affected, our family is affected, etc.

We made it through our rough patch and came out of it stronger and happier than ever.  We even welcomed another child into our family.  When I first got married, I didn’t know what to expect from marriage or from a husband, and what I did expect were the wrong things.  I was young and naive.  Marriage takes work… A LOT.  But, man, is it worth it in the end.  God has truly blessed me with a wonderful husband and family.  We do not have the perfect marriage and we still hit bumps here and there, I sometimes even have my selfish moments.  But what we do differently now is we ask ourselves, “is this what is best for our marriage?” or “am I putting the marriage first?”.  Sometimes the answer is no, and we adjust our perspective.  But because we know to ask ourselves those questions, we WILL have a successful marriage.

Here are some photos of us:

 

 

 

What have you learned over the years that has helped your marriage last?  What advice would you pass on to young couples entering into marriage?

New Year’s Resolution – 2012

Well, another year has come and passed.  2011 was full of adventures, happiness, hurt, family, new opportunities, truth, soul searching, and much more.  But what will 2012 bring?  Honestly, I have no idea, but I’m excited to see what is in store.  Here are some resolutions I made to make this year better than the last.

 

My top 10 11 resolutions are (in no particular order):

1. Eat Healthier.

2. Work out more; get back into shape.

3. Read more – at least 3 books this year. (This may seem like a tiny goal, but being as I didn’t even make it through one this past year, I think this is a great and attainable goal!)

4. Keep improving myself; spiritually, intellectually, emotionally, professionally, as a wife, as a mother, as a friend.

5. Thank God for something EVERY DAY.  Put thankfulness first in my mind and heart.

6. Be a better housekeeper.

7. Make more time for my hobbies: crafting, sewing, photography, blogging…

8. Learn to stop sweating/stressing the small stuff.

9. Be more money-wise and be more aware of our budget on a daily basis.

10. Start doing my daily devotions again.

11. (I almost forgot about this one.) LEARN TO SPEAK SPANISH CONVERSATIONALLY!

 

I really searched deep down into myself to come up with these goals.  Some people may read them and think they are pretty generic, but this IS the direction I want my life to take this year.  Last year I put a lot of faith in people who let me down, and I need my faith to be in God- not man.  I didn’t make enough time for myself and my family; I worked hard and sacrificed too much of myself for my job and that isn’t going to happen this year.  I am going to get the rest I need so I can be the mother, wife and friend I know I am inside.  Also, it is extremely important I make time for my hobbies because these things make me happy and feel accomplished… when I have this sense of inner-happiness and self-accomplishment, I am more confident and esteemed and that makes me easier to be around.  I am not the easiest person to be around when I am stressed and I accept that. 😦  These are my goals to improve my wellness, my self, my family and my spirit.

What are your goals for this new year?  I’d love to hear about them.

Thanks for reading, come back soon. 🙂

– Tiffany

 

Lacking Energy

I haven’t posted in about a year or so. I found a draft blog I saved back in March and never finished. Blah! I have been burning the wick at both ends, so to speak, and have had no energy for myself or my hobbies. That ends tonight! As of 2012 I am making it a goal to find more time for rest, loved ones, and my passions. I am going to venture into sewing my own cloth diapers, making headbands and bows for my sweet daughter, having more date nights with the hubs, keeping the house in order, being a soccer mom (yes my son plays soccer and he’s so good), travelling, etc! I plan on blogging about all of it and more! Thanks for reading, and I’ll keep you all “posted”. Pun intended. hahaha.